Friendship and love · Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health · The way we are

Relationships are teleological

Relationships are teleological. Yep, I had to look that one up too. In other words, relationships are going somewhere – as long as two people are involved. They are living and alive and moving and becoming something… and sometimes they aren’t becoming anything good. In Donald Miller’s Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy, the author… Continue reading Relationships are teleological

Life and other catastrophes · Relating to God · Spiritual growth and healing · The way we are

What’s your dominant life narrative?

As children, we are convinced, naturally, that we’re the centre of life’s story. We demand attention without rationale or reasoning, and are egocentric by design. As we grow older, we start to assess and validate the life stories of others. We become more able to celebrate our friends, and the things they contribute to our… Continue reading What’s your dominant life narrative?

Life and other catastrophes · The way we are

The number one biggest dream deterrent

Ever talked yourself out of a dream? It’s easy, especially if we’re wired to overthink things, to rationalise our way out of those ideas that have been building and growing within us. Those ideas that might just impact the world we live in, even in a small way. Not long ago, I came across Daniel Flynn… Continue reading The number one biggest dream deterrent

Psychology and mental health · Schema Series · The way we are

SCHEMA 4: The burden of shame

How’s your mental health? I’m interested to know how each of us can make our lives better by understanding the thought patterns that influence our behaviours and feelings about ourselves. This is Part Four in a series of blog entries on schemas: a term from psychology and cognitive science which describes an organised pattern of thought or behaviour. Schemas can help us… Continue reading SCHEMA 4: The burden of shame

Psychology and mental health · Schema Series · The way we are

SCHEMA 3: When emotional support is withheld

How’s your mental health? I’m interested to know how each of us can make our lives better by understanding the thought patterns that influence our behaviours and feelings about ourselves. This is Part Three in a series of blog entries on schemas: a term from psychology and cognitive science which describes an organised pattern of thought or behaviour. Schemas can help us… Continue reading SCHEMA 3: When emotional support is withheld

Psychology and mental health · Schema Series · The way we are

SCHEMA 2: Why abuse leads to mistrust

How’s your mental health? I’m interested to know how each of us can make our lives better by understanding the thought patterns that influence our behaviours and feelings about ourselves. This is Part Two in a series of blog entries on schemas: a term from psychology and cognitive science which describes an organised pattern of thought or behaviour. You can… Continue reading SCHEMA 2: Why abuse leads to mistrust

Psychology and mental health · The way we are

The danger of holding back our truest selves

During my tumultuous teenage  years, I fondly remember my older brother encouraging me, in his caring and gentle way, to just “be myself”. I loved that he believed that being myself was worth being, if you know what I mean. I didn’t have to be anyone but me, and all this entailed. Sometimes it’s hard… Continue reading The danger of holding back our truest selves