Friendship and love · Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health · The way we are

The desire to belong cost me myself

Have you ever been so desperate to belong that you’ve altered yourself in the process of trying? I have. I remember this particular group of people that drew me somehow. Its members were different to me, but they seemed really happy… well-connected. It made so much sense to be part of that group, because I… Continue reading The desire to belong cost me myself

Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health · Relating to God · Spiritual growth and healing · The way we are

Why forgiveness is not a formula

I’ve never been good with equations or formulas – and I’m not just talking about the mathematical variety. I’m thinking more about those formulas you find in some Christian books whereby, if you read out a series of steps towards ‘freedom in Christ’ or ‘freedom from addiction’ and so on, you will have a good… Continue reading Why forgiveness is not a formula

Bible quotes · Psychology and mental health · Relating to God · Spiritual growth and healing · The way we are

The Father’s arms are open

Sometimes we’re tempted to think we have to somehow have it all together before we can approach God. That we need to be wearing our best clothes – in the spiritual sense. But this verse reveals a God who doesn’t reject us based on what we’re ‘wearing’ or whether we’ve done enough good things this… Continue reading The Father’s arms are open

Bible quotes · Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health · Relating to God · Spiritual growth and healing · The way we are

A God that smooths out our rough edges

Ever read a Bible verse that just sinks into your gut like heavy cement? The impact is felt immediately, like a spear piercing your heart. You want to keep scrolling; or look away. Anything to sear your conscience. But the words sit there in your stomach, unwilling to budge. That’s how I felt when I… Continue reading A God that smooths out our rough edges

Friendship and love · Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health

Five ways to build a sense of belonging

The desire to belong is common to us all. We are born wired for relationship, arms outstretched, clamouring for attention and a significant other to meet our needs. Even though our ‘sense of agency‘ or control grows as we develop as people – to the point where we’re no longer exclusively dependent on our mother,… Continue reading Five ways to build a sense of belonging

Bible quotes · Psychology and mental health · Relating to God · Spiritual growth and healing · Verses and prayers

The number one fear-buster

Perfect love.  Is there any such thing? Human love, though delightful, is flawed, weak, imperfect.  Human love grasps at perfection but never makes the cut. God’s love, however, is perfection entirely.  God’s love changes a person’s life, and does something amazing. It casts out fear.  It expels it entirely as we lift it, week-kneed, to… Continue reading The number one fear-buster

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How to truly do good

What does it mean to do good to all people? What does it mean in our everyday life? I might be stating the obvious, but doing good starts with intending good towards others. Doing good starts with a posture of love – a willingness to value the people around you, starting with the individual you’ve… Continue reading How to truly do good