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How to truly do good

What does it mean to do good to all people? What does it mean in our everyday life? I might be stating the obvious, but doing good starts with intending good towards others. Doing good starts with a posture of love – a willingness to value the people around you, starting with the individual you’ve… Continue reading How to truly do good

Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health · The way we are

This is going to be the best year ever! (Or is it…?)

2017 is going to be the best year ever! 2016 was the worst year ever!!! In my attempts to achieve greater balance in my thinking and verbal proclamations in general, you will not hear me make either of these statements. Because my aim, at present, is to resist what the psychologists call “dichotomous thinking”. According to… Continue reading This is going to be the best year ever! (Or is it…?)

Friendship and love · Psychology and mental health · Relating to God · The way we are

You are not the sum total of what others think about you

You are not the sum total of what you wear. You are not the sum total of the reading on the bathroom scales. You are not the sum total of the result you got in the HSC. You are not the sum total of texts you got today. You are not the sum total of… Continue reading You are not the sum total of what others think about you

Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health · Spiritual growth and healing · The way we are

Why it’s so important to have our needs met

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is often portrayed in the shape of a pyramid with the largest, most fundamental levels of need at the bottom and the need for self-actualization at the top. The most fundamental and basic four layers of the pyramid contain the needs of esteem, friendship and love, security, and physical need. If… Continue reading Why it’s so important to have our needs met

Psychology and mental health · Relating to God · Spiritual growth and healing · The way we are

Go on… Release the boat

She slowly and suddenly released the boat from the shore… This contradictory sentence has been floating around in my head all morning. I jotted it down to describe the process of letting go, of handing over… I’m in the process of surrendering some unhealthy ways of thinking which have taken a long time – yet… Continue reading Go on… Release the boat

Friendship and love · Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health · The way we are

Relationships are teleological

Relationships are teleological. Yep, I had to look that one up too. In other words, relationships are going somewhere – as long as two people are involved. They are living and alive and moving and becoming something… and sometimes they aren’t becoming anything good. In Donald Miller’s Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy, the author… Continue reading Relationships are teleological

Psychology and mental health · Schema Series · The way we are

SCHEMA 4: The burden of shame

How’s your mental health? I’m interested to know how each of us can make our lives better by understanding the thought patterns that influence our behaviours and feelings about ourselves. This is Part Four in a series of blog entries on schemas: a term from psychology and cognitive science which describes an organised pattern of thought or behaviour. Schemas can help us… Continue reading SCHEMA 4: The burden of shame