Friendship and love · Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health · The way we are

The desire to belong cost me myself

Have you ever been so desperate to belong that you’ve altered yourself in the process of trying? I have. I remember this particular group of people that drew me somehow. Its members were different to me, but they seemed really happy… well-connected. It made so much sense to be part of that group, because I… Continue reading The desire to belong cost me myself

Friendship and love · Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health

Five ways to build a sense of belonging

The desire to belong is common to us all. We are born wired for relationship, arms outstretched, clamouring for attention and a significant other to meet our needs. Even though our ‘sense of agency‘ or control grows as we develop as people – to the point where we’re no longer exclusively dependent on our mother,… Continue reading Five ways to build a sense of belonging

Life and other catastrophes · Psychology and mental health · Spiritual growth and healing · The way we are

Why it’s so important to have our needs met

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is often portrayed in the shape of a pyramid with the largest, most fundamental levels of need at the bottom and the need for self-actualization at the top. The most fundamental and basic four layers of the pyramid contain the needs of esteem, friendship and love, security, and physical need. If… Continue reading Why it’s so important to have our needs met

Friendship and love · Life and other catastrophes · Spiritual growth and healing · The way we are

Lord lift us up where we belong…

Do you ever feel like you’re standing outside of someone else’s ‘club’, looking in? Like you don’t really belong, no matter how hard you try? I think we’ve all felt this way at some point in our lives, whether it’s a sporting team we haven’t made the cut for, a family where we’re the ‘black… Continue reading Lord lift us up where we belong…

Friendship and love · Relating to God

The ultimate imprint

I really enjoyed the Twilight series, and am particularly intrigued by Meyer’s concept of imprinting, where some of the Quillayute werewolves attach themselves to a human being of the opposite sex. Akin to when a werewolf finds its soulmate, a werewolf and the person they have imprinted on are two parts of the same soul. They belong together and it… Continue reading The ultimate imprint